The Death of Me the Life of Us

Discussion: “The Death of Me, the Life of Us” by Ellen Gable

egable200x200“The Death of Me, the Life of Us” by Ellen Gable

See our interview with Ellen here.

Discussion Questions

  • Bereavement and grief are natural responses when we lose a close relative or friend.  Viktor Frankl, a Jewish psychiatrist who survived Auschwitz, and later became a convert to Catholicism, said in his classic book Man’s Search for Meaning, that we could survive any “how” as long as we knew the “why.” That is, if we could somehow find meaning in our suffering we could draw strength from it to continue on and survive. (John Mallon, 1996).  What meaning do you think Sarah, the protagonist from The Death of Me, The Life of Us, eventually draws from the experience of losing her youngest sister?
  • Relationships with others are a valuable part of our life experience.   How did Jack help Sarah to understand that the grief and guilt she latched onto for so many years were preventing her from experiencing life?
  • What did Jack mean when he told Sarah that her mother lost two daughters the day of the accident?
  • Many experts say that there are five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Which stage do you think Sarah remained in until she met Jack?